No matter what time of year it is, for moms it always seems that the kids come first. Because, let’s face it, they tend to. They are in need of help in almost every aspect of life and it is mom’s job to make sure they get the help they need. But what about mom’s needs?
It’s common for moms and their needs to get pushed to the back-burner. But moms need to focus on self-care, too! This may sound like the “buzz phrase” of this generation, but it’s necessary and helpful in order to keep from burning out on motherhood. Not everyone can catch a break (especially single moms), but where possible we all need to invest some time in ourselves.
Here are a few ideas that won’t break the bank and will help you on your road to caring for yourself as much as you care for your family this summer:
Plan Down Time
Whether your kids are still in a napping phase or if they can be entertained by a book or even a screen for a decent amount of time, be sure to plan down time into your day! Don’t plan to always use this time to be productive. I know, this sounds contradictive, you have a free moment to get something done and I am telling you to do nothing.
For me- having just a few minutes in bed by myself to enjoy my coffee while it is still hot, is a dream come true.
While rest time might seem like your only time of day to get caught up on household chores, keep in mind, your sanity is much more important than laundry or dishes; take a nap, relax in a bath, read a book, or color (a definite stress reliever!). You’ll likely find that the other chores find ways of getting done anyway.
Spend Time with Others
Especially if you’re an extrovert, don’t forget to spend time with others! Utilize appropriate social distancing of course. Whether you take your kids along for a playdate or grab a babysitter (or have your husband stay home for an evening!), time spent talking to other adults can have an amazingly refreshing effect on you.
Keep in mind, you don’t have to go anywhere for a girls night. If you don’t have childcare options, make sure you have a set bedtime for your kids! Get those children to bed then have everyone over for a game night, campfire with s’mores, or a few glasses of wine. Even if your kids get up a few times, your friends, especially fellow Mama’s, will understand and you’ll still be able to enjoy the majority of your evening!
You may have hobbies that you’ve been able to maintain throughout motherhood, but chances are, they have been pushed aside in favor of your kids’ hobbies. Try reviving a favorite or experiencing something new!
If exercise is your jam, get your kids involved; take a walk around the block, go on a family bike ride, or find your nearest lake and do some canoeing. Kids even tend to love doing yoga or a dance workout alongside you.
Take a painting or cooking class or use Pinterest to find new recipes or painting tips. We all learned this during quarantine anyways, so continue these habits.
Pick up that neglected guitar and start practicing again. Finish that crafting project to use as gifts or to start your own business.
Take Care of Yourself
The important thing is to try to remember to take care of yourself in the midst of this busy season of life. This usually looks different for each person, so be sure to try a few new things, if what works for your friends doesn’t seem to be relaxing for you.
Whatever you decide to do to care for yourself, don’t forget that you’re important, too. Especially in this summer season, start with getting outside, enjoying some sunshine, soaking in the long days and warm evenings, and do something that helps you find joy in the everyday grind.