As a mom of two littles and one on the way I am sure of one thing so far as a mom- kids LOVE attention. Sometimes going to great lengths in stride towards bad behavior just so we might notice them. If you have more than one little on your house, it’s hard to really get to know your kids. As moms we are constantly separating an argument, finding a snack, filling a sip cup, or telling one of your kids to stop coloring on the walls again.
As hard as it sounds, spending alone time with each of your children has many benefits for both you and them. Here are reasons why you should take your kids on individual dates, and how it might strengthen your family.
One on One Time is Special
Giving one on one time to your children means more to them than you know. It’s a special time with just mom and dad, no longer having to compete for attention with other siblings. If you set a day on the calendar every month, this also gives them something to look forward to with you.
Makes Them Feel Important
Children, especially older siblings, can feel lost and unimportant if mom and dad are having to spend all their time and energy with a baby brother or sister. Spending time with them allows them to feel important and like they’re the only thing that matters at the present moment.
Builds Their Self-worth
Having little dates with your children can build their self-worth, because they’re more willing to share their dreams and secrets with you, that don’t come out in everyday interactions. They feel valued.
You Both Discover More About Each Other
Life can get pretty crazy, with running kids to school, after-school practice, and coming home to make dinner. Even around the dinner table, most conversation is just small-talk. The quieter children might get drowned out by the talkative siblings.
Just like a real date, having a date with your kids helps you really get to know each other and break away from the normal everyday routine.
Cuts back on Bad Behavior
Spending extra one-on-one time with your children, can actually cut down on bad behavior at home and at school. Children that act out with bad behavior are simply trying to get attention, but in the wrong way. If your children have poor behavior, try taking them on a date and test it out.
They Might Open Up More to You
Children don’t always want their brother or sister to hear what’s on their heart. They are more willing to open up about their anxiety, dreams, or deep thoughts in a private setting, that you would have missed otherwise.
Teach Them to Model Good Behavior
Your children are watching you. While you are on a date, model good behavior. Opening the door for others, being polite, and show them how a gentleman or a lady should act.
One on One Dates Give You a Breather as Well
This is actually an award for the parent as well. If you have a family of several children, it gives you a breather and a break from stress for a bit.
These are some reasons why you should take your children on individual dates. In what other ways can taking your kids on a date can be a benefit in your relationship with them?
This is such a great idea. I mentioned it to my husband and he’s on board. We don’t have a second kid yet but will file this away and remember it.
Great post! This is such a cute idea. I honestly don’t remember if we actually did this at home when I was a kid, but I believe that it would be beneficial for both the kids and their parents. Thanks for sharing!
We don’t have kids yet, but I can definitely see how this is beneficial! Love it!
The points you made here are fantastic!! Growing up, I remember going out with just one of my parents, sometimes, and those outings always felt more intentional, special, and fun! I still have memories of these outings — particular one at the zoo with my dad haha. So important!!
Xx, Morgs*