Even as an adult, we always struggle with self-esteem and lack of confidence. The seeds of these are so profoundly sown since our childhood, and this is something we carry along for the rest of our lives.
Being a girl in the society that makes you accept the norms and labels you for everything you’re up to, our self-esteem is always at stake. Thus, it becomes crucial for parents to build high self-esteem and let their kids realize how important they are.
Self-esteem is how much our kids value themselves and consider themselves important in the world. Having positive self-esteem is the first step towards the journey of practicing self-love.
From a fellow Mama of 3 little girls- here are some fun ways you can boost your daughter’s self-esteem:
1. Respect her opinions
I get it, our kids may be wrong while presenting their opinions most of the time. However, instead of getting frustrated or anxious about it, try to respect their opinions. And by respecting their opinions, I mean to hear them out.
Do not present rejection without even hearing their thoughts or ideas. This will break their confidence and they will no longer consider themselves worthy of making any decision.
Let your daughter know that you are there to hear.
2. Let her make mistakes
You cannot help your daughter with every step of her life. Understand that she is growing and learning, so she is bound to make mistakes.
Instead, teach her the value and power of mistakes. Let her know how inevitably important it is to make mistakes and learn from them. Do not snatch away this stepping stone and make her jump on the ladder of success.
When she knows that she has the power to rebuild herself after tasting failure, she will be able to face every storm in her life.
3. Leave some random notes
This is the best way to boost your daughter’s self-esteem. Be her secret pen-pal or send her some random love notes. Write about how you admire her kindness and generosity.
Do not write it from the viewpoint of a parent. Make it anonymous and send it to her every time you feel your girl needs a little pep-talk.
4. Teach her some powerful affirmations or mantras
Affirmations are such a powerful way to boost self-esteem and build self-confidence. Teach her how to use them or simply print out some of the powerful, positive affirmations and stick them on her mirror or the desk.
Let her know to believe in herself even when no one in the world does. These affirmations can be as simple as; ‘I am able to do everything that I set my mind onto.’ Make sure they resonate with her age and work.
5. Detach yourself from the outcome
Do not appreciate her only when she achieves something or is successful. We girls always have a habit of attaching our worth with our success.
This will make her want to be always successful desperately, which will harm her health later. Instead, appreciate her efforts even when she fails. Teach her that life is a journey and not a destination, and that success and failures are just a part of life.
Make her resilient and robust that she can live on her own for the rest of her life.
It indeed is up to parents to find some creative ways to boost their daughter’s self-esteem, and I really hope that this piece helped you figure out some.
I would love to know your views in the comments below.